This is a small text, which is taken from the Book called Manhood, written by Steve Biddulph. I recommend this book to especially all men!
How men and boys were split
For hundreds of thousands of years the human race lived in small nomadic groups of, at most, 30 people. Perhaps in your whole life, if you had lived in those times, you would meet only 200 people. Even when the New Stone Age ended around 4000 BC and recorded history began, we lived only in villages and very small towns until very recent times.
In the timeless rhythm of village and tribal life, men were deeply involved in raising the children. You still see this today in the developing world - men carrying toddlers to the fields on their shoulders, sons and nephews learning from the older men as they go through the day. Along with the skills of hunting and making things, boys were learning how to be a man. It was a long apprentice-ship: 40 years olds were still learning. Old men and women led the community by virtue of their vast knowledge and experience. All day, every day, boys drank in the tone, style and manner of being a man from a dozen or so available role models, who were tough but also tender with them, as needed.
Surprisingly to most of us, it's now thought by anthropologists that life in hunter gatherer times was relatively easy, even leisurely. Knowing hundreds of useful plants and the ways of animals meant that food gathering relied on skill more than exertion. The desert Aboriginal people in my part of Australia(a very harsh environment) could meet their food and shelter needs with only a couple of hours effort per day. (We have clearly gone backwards.) Certainly in our prehistory there was famine, diase and warfare, but these were interruptions in a timeless pattern of relative plenty. This pattern depended on each new generation becoming skilled, safe, integrated members of the community. Nothing consumed as much time and energy as the training and socialisation of the young, so they did it well.
Then, suddenly, in an unprecedented way(in the ecological blink of an eye), it all began to change. Beginning barely 200 years ago, the Industrial Revolution arrived and changed everything. In the British Isles, for instance, villagers were driven from their homes in tens of thousands to free up the land for sheep, as wool production was more profitable than crops and took much less labour. Whole villages were razed by the landlords' hired men, so the inhabitants could never return. Men away in the Napoleonic Wars returned to find their homes gone, their families sometimes starved to death. The Potato Famine in Ireland was the last event of a long genocide against the peasant classes across Britain. The towns needed factory workers, miners and labourers. It was a matter of change or die. (The same pattern is still taking place all across Asia and Africa today.)
In the new industrial era fathers, for the first time in history, worked away from their families, waking before first light and returning after dark, six days a week. When fathers came home they were exhausted, angry and defeated men. The children learnt to avoid them. Mothers struggled to raise the children, school regimes were intended to subdue and condition them. For the first time in human history a generation of boys grew up without being fathered in the true sense. Today we take this arrangement for granted: fathers work, mothers raise children(or put them in daycare for other women to raise). Female schoolteachers civilise our boys. Boys have a choice: to comply and be good or to misbehave. The 'misbehavers' form gangs for solace and self-protection, looking for masculine energy they do not realise they are missing....